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Admin Nerd | Posted: Tuesday 12th May 2009 6:56pm.
What If She Makes Fun of You, Then REJECTS You?
By John A.
Do you know what stops most men from attracting women? I’ll tell you what it’s not, then tell you what it is. It’s not rejection. Women rarely reject men unless given a reason by the man to reject them. And, the truth is, most men DO give women a reason to reject them.
The reason? FEAR of rejection. That’s what kills most initial attraction. If she feels that you’re afraid of her or of rejection, it will kill the attraction. She won’t know why, all she’ll know is that it was there, and gone. And when it’s gone, you will be too.
I received an email from a man today, asking me about this very subject. Have a look at this question, then pay attention to my answer
Hi John,
I follow your mails from the island of Malta. Well done and thanks. My question is you mention a lot of times that attraction is made when we have the guts and go and talk ourselves to woman. Ok fair enough and I agree, but 1) what will be the 1st step, what shall we start talking about, and 2) if you don't have enough guts John, and when you go she just makes fun of you and get rejected what will happen. This is only I ask. Thanks once again
Joe
JA: Joe, thanks for the questions all the way from Malta—it’s good to know my reach is truly worldwide! First off, you’re setting a very bad frame on yourself when you say you need guts to talk to a woman. When you do this, you’re giving into the belief that it’s a stressful, dangerous circumstance. Running into a burning building requires guts, talking to a woman involves fun. The shift is subtle, but very important. Women want to be with fun guys, not scared, stressed out ones and if you feel you need “guts” to talk to a woman, you’re done before you ever started.
So, once you’re clear that when you talk to a woman it’s from the point of view of fun and playfulness; it’s time to actually talk to a woman. What do you talk about “first?” Pay close attention, here: you talk about whatever YOU feel like talking about. In other words, you control the interaction because you choose the subject. The way to do this is to only talk to women you find interesting—and you talk about what piqued your interest (not her appearance). The best way to start off is with a naughty, playful comment. For instance, I saw a woman out at the pool with tattoo it looked like she paid 50 cents for. So, I simply said, “Hey, did you get that tattoo from a kindergartner? Looks like he’s been coloring outside the lines!”
Now, this isn’t some canned line I have. It just popped into my head as a naughty comment on the environment, something I try to do with every woman I meet. It immediately puts me in authority because—I made fun of her, first! And because I say it with a playful tone, and a naughty smile, she laughed. They always laugh, because it’s my intent for her to laugh. And when she laughs, it’s the laugh of attraction.
Because I have no fear of rejection, she can’t reject me. I never ask her out, or ask for her number or set up a situation where she can reject me. I always set it up so I can reject her. How? By ending every interaction by presenting her with the opportunity to spend more time with me. That’s it. I’ll tell her, “Well, you’ve entertained me somewhat, and I might allow you to try to entertain me more.” Then I’ll set up a second meeting right there, then exchange contact information.
See, by framing it as a continuation of an obviously enjoyable interaction, she can’t reject me. And I wouldn’t care if she did. Doesn’t bother me a bit. But, the truth is, I haven’t had a “no” in years. Understand this: women want attractive men to talk to them. They rarely get to meet one. If you can create attraction, she’s the one who’s afraid of rejection, not you.
And if she makes fun of you, great—make fun of her right back. It’s a sign that she’s a fun girl with lots of energy, and those are the best kind.
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